Lesson Idea: Stand Up, Stand Out: No Checking, No Capping, No Bullying

Grade Level: 
Middle School

 Overview:

 
Memphis: Stand Up, Stand Out: No Checking, No Capping, No Bullying highlights one middle school's response to a noticeable increase in “checking” or the practice of exchanging verbal insults between students. 
 
It was widely recognized that at this school, Fairview Middle School, “playful checking” often lead to bullying when verbal exchanges became unwelcome, quickly turned mean and even lead to fights.  To confirm this trajectory, teachers at Fairview conducted a school wide survey asking all students, ““If you could change one thing about the climate and culture of the school, what would it be?”
 
Overwhelmingly students said to stop checking and bullying. 
 
This video highlights the next steps Fairview Middle School took in order to curb the practice of “checking”  to stop any opportunity to bully and to ultimately create a safer school for all students and community members.

 

Pre-Viewing
 
According to the organization DoSomething.org, 56% of students have personally felt some sort of bullying at school. Between 4th and 8th grade in particular, 90% of students are victims of bullying.  Given these sobering statistics, it is very likely that a majority of students in your class have either been a victim or perpetrated an act of bullying. 
 
Because of the sensitivity of this issue and your student’s possible proximity to being bullied or being a bully, it is critical to take some time to prepare the class prior to viewing this clip.  The suggested Pre-View Activities and the Discussion Questions will provide several opportunities to ensure that a safe learning environment can be achieved and a discussion on safe school climate and the role of bullying in their lives can be accomplished.
 
Pre-View Reading and Discussion:  Educating Ourselves about Bullying
 
(1) Reflecting upon our own experiences:
 
Directions:  In March 2011 President Barack and First Lady Michelle Obama hosted a conference on the Prevention of Bullying at the White House.  The conference highlighted many positive actions young people, school officials, parents and community members have engaged in across the nation to create safer school environments for all students. 
 
Activity 1: As you read the following opening remarks aloud to your students, please have copies available so each student can underline words, phrases or sentences they find particularly meaningful. After completing the passage, ask each student to pick one phrase they underlined and either silently journal why they chose the passage or turn to a classmate and share their thoughts.  Invite a large class discussion following the opportunity for students to share what passages were discussed.  Record passages discussed on the class white board.
 
Activity #2:  Prior to reading the President’s remarks to your students, pre-select 3-5 sentences you would like the students to discuss in small groups.  Print these selections out on individual slips of paper.  For example,
 
“But because it’s [bullying] something that happens a lot, and it’s something that’s always been around, sometimes we’ve turned a blind eye to the problem.  We’ve said, “Kids will be kids.” 
 
Following the large group reading of the President’s remarks, have students assemble themselves in small groups of 4-5 students each.  Pass out the selected passage slips and ask students to discuss thoughts, feelings or reactions to this particular passage. Share out as a large group their reactions. 
 
As a follow up activity for either #1 or #1 ask students to write a letter to President and First Lady Obama sharing their thoughts about the class discussion that followed learning about the White House Conference on the Prevention of Bullying.
 
President Barack Obama, March 10,  2011
 
As adults, we all remember what it was like to see kids picked on in the hallways or in the schoolyard.  And I have to say, with big ears and the name that I have, I wasn’t immune.  I didn’t emerge unscathed.  But because it’s something that happens a lot, and it’s something that’s always been around, sometimes we’ve turned a blind eye to the problem.  We’ve said, “Kids will be kids.”  And so sometimes we overlook the real damage that bullying can do, especially when young people face harassment day after day, week after week.
 
So consider these statistics.  A third of middle school and high school students have reported being bullied during the school year.  Almost 3 million students have said they were pushed, shoved, tripped, even spit on.  It’s also more likely to affect kids that are seen as different, whether it’s because of the color of their skin, the clothes they wear, the disability they may have, or sexual orientation.
 
And bullying has been shown to lead to absences and poor performance in the
classroom.  And that alone should give us pause, since no child should be afraid
to go to school in this country…
 
…No child should feel that alone.  We’ve got to make sure our young people know that if they’re in trouble, there are caring adults who can help and young adults that can help; that even if they’re having a tough time, they’re going to get through it, and there’s a whole world full of possibility waiting for them.  We also have to make sure we’re doing everything we can so that no child is in that position in the first place.  And this is a responsibility we all share -- a responsibility we have to teach all children the Golden Rule:  We should treat others the way we want to be treated.
 
(2) Responding to bullying in your school or community:
 
Rosalind Wiseman was a participant at this White House summit.  On her website she suggests the following strategies to help young people respond if they find themselves in a situation where they are being bullied or are witnessing an incident of bullying.
 
If you are being bullied:
Many kids who are bullied feel helpless. Sometimes, they think the only thing they can do is hope the problem will go away. But there are things you can do to get some control in the situation and it starts with developing a strategy and a support system.
 
The moment it’s happening:
  • Breathe. Observe who is around. Breathe again.
  • Ask yourself what the bully is doing that you want stopped and what you want them to do instead.
  • If you can, find the courage to say those feelings. For example, “Stop pushing me into the lockers, I want to walk down the hallway in peace. I know you can do whatever you want, but I want you to stop.” Or, “Stop sending texts to everyone in the grade that no one should talk to me.”
  • If you can walk away, think about walking towards safety not away from the bully. For example, walk towards a classroom where you can see a teacher you trust. If you are in a park, walk towards a group of adults or a coach.
  • Don’t retaliate or threaten to retaliate.  This often leads to an escalation of the bullying.
 
If you are being bullied online:
Any time someone is bullied through social networking, a cell phone, or any type of social media, it can be really hard not to want to defend yourself by retaliating or finding out why this person is attacking you.  Sleeping with your phone in your bedroom is never a good idea, but it’s even worse when you’re bullied online because it’s too tempting to stay up all night trying to “fix” the situation—which isn’t possible anyway.  Same thing goes with a computer.  Sleep is hard anyway when you know people are saying mean things about you, but it’s impossible if you’re checking Facebook, Twitter, and your texts all night.
 
After the bullying has occurred:
Remember that reporting a bully is not snitching.  People snitch when all they want to do is get the person in trouble.  People report when they have a problem that is too big for them to solve on their own.  People who report bullying are doing the right thing.  And the reality is adults can’t address the problem if they don’t know about it.
Report the bullying to an ally:  An ally is an adult that you trust to help you think through your problems.  An ally can be a parent or guardian, a teacher or counselor.  Avoid describing the bullying in generalities like, “He is being mean.”  Be specific about the bullying behavior, where you are when it occurs, and what you need to feel safe.
 
If you are scared to go to school, show up for practice, or any other activity, tell your ally or the adult who is in charge.  It is not your fault that you are being bullied, and you have the right to be in school and participate in after-school activities, just like everyone else.
 
What do you do if the bully is a friend?
It’s always important to have strong friendships that you can depend on, but sometimes the bully can be a friend.  If that happens ask yourself the following questions about your friendship.
  • What are the three most important things I need in a friendship? (Most people say, trust, respect, and honesty)
  • Are my friends treating me according to what I need in a friendship?
  • If my friends aren’t treating me according to my standards, why am I in this friendship? Is it worth it?
  • If my friends were nice to me tomorrow, do I believe the bullying will stop or am I hoping for the best and putting all the power in their hands?
If you’re the adult who is helping the child or teen think through these questions, it’s ok for them to think about their answers. They need to come up with the answers for themselves so they can internalize the realization that the cost is too high to maintain these relationships. See this resource.
 
What other ideas would you like to add to Ms. Wiseman’s list of responses to bullying?
For more information on responding to cyberbulling go to: Students Take On Cyberbullying
 
 
Post-View
 
(1) Journal Write
 
After viewing Not in Our Schools – Memphis it may be helpful to first have students take a moment to journal privately in order to facilitate a larger class discussion.  If you decide to propose prompts that are personal in nature, it is important to be explicit that their journals will not be publically shared.
 
Possible prompts could include:
  • Is there a practice similar to “checking” at your school?  What is it?  
  • Have you been a participant or witness to any acts of bullying at your school?  What were they?  What was your role?
  • How does your school currently respond to acts of bullying?  Do you think these are effective?
  • If you were an adult in your school community (i.e. Principal, teacher or staff) what would you recommend as helpful actions to take in order foster a safe school community for all?
 
For other helpful ideas in using a Journal in the classroom, go to Journals in a Facing History classroom.
 
(2)  Discussion Questions
 
The opportunity to openly discuss student’s response to this video can be organized with the following discussion questions in mind:
 
  • What was inspiring about the response of Fairview Middle School to bullying at their school?
 
  • DeYvonne, a student at Fairview said “We may not think it is bullying, but it is?” How can you identify when something like “checking" crosses the line and becomes bullying?
 
  • Some of your friends may simply say "I am just teasing" when they call someone a name or make a negative remark about a person. Have you ever been teased in a way that hurts your feelings? What can you do when it happens to you? What about when it happens to someone else?
 
  • What do you think “Stand Up and Stand Out” means at this school?  What qualities do you think are necessary in order for an individual to “Stand Up and Stand Out?”
 
  • One teacher mentioned that Fairview students studied the Little Rock Nine and the historical example of desegregation at Central High School as another response in their school. What historical examples of bullying can you think of?  Is studying historical examples of bullying an appropriate response to understanding bullying today?  Why or why not?
 
  • What other suggestions could you make to the teachers, students and parents at Fairview Middle School to continue to foster a safe school climate. Could these suggestions apply to your school?
 
  • What other inventions and policies do you think are effective in creating safe schools for all?
 
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Comments

One day in the 2nd or 3rd grade, i cant remeber. i was riding on the bus home, sitting slone, a group of girls were tainting me and calling names. After this went on for a while; i stood up and yelled at them to leave me alone. The biggest girl of the group stood up and walked down the isle to confont me. She raised a fist and punched me right in the back if the head. I fell to the ground unconsious! The bus had to pull over and get me out of the bus. I was out for 5-10 minutes before i woke up. And then another 5 for me to get back to my senses. The girl didnt look at me the rest of the week. She was suspended the next day and never botherede me again, except for a couple names here and then.

That is horrible and should be addressed in so many ways.  Particularly, how can a bus driver be able to drive

the bus and watch the student behavior at the same time without being unsafe?  There needs to be bus monitors

on each and every bus, just like a chaperone on a field trip.  This is unacceptable and will only change when people stand up and say we won't allow this to happen anymore and we must have chaperones.  What if we had

parents sign up for one day a week or one day every other week to ride the bus as a chaperone because I am sure

most school districts would say that they could not afford to pay someone to chaperone.

Bullying by coworkers and school administrators or supervisors is also very common.  I am a bus driver in one of the largest school districts in Texas. My Asst Director over my center knows how to operate within the established rules and policies of our school district. His bullying is much harder to detect and thereby leaving us bus drivers in a state of confusion thinking at first that is is our fault

.He has been reported to Human Resources according to my co workers and nothing has been done.  My district rules and regulation promises healthy working environments where dignity and rights of the individual are protected but nothing has been done to remove him. He placed a camera in the open area where we try to get some personal comfort and eat lunch in between routes. There is no real business justification for this closed circuit camera to be placed except that we have mail box slots than can easily be moved to where our bus keys are kept in front of our dispatchers.

Our Asst Director has graduated to be much more skilled at his craft of bullying to the point of appearing to fall within the professional guidelines when in fact he is using perverse expressions of power to achieve his own end. He supports what I call workplace snitching on those of us who intimidate him.  He will then have his supervisors pull in our bus tapes to try to catch us as something that gives him the right to call us in and harrass us about something. 

I will be appreciative if you would get the districts to provide training to all managers and non managers  the support groups and centers and then provide some sort of protected reporting for these stressed out workers. I was definitely one of the ones buillied by him and his snitchers, but by the Grace of God I was able to stand up to him although his snitchers are still wasting their time on harrassing me or taunting me.

There are lots of others who have been indignified to the point of being too afraid of loosing their jobs to come up and start talking.  I don't really blame them because I am concerned that the higher up school administrators keep themselves in denial regarding this issue. I really want to help them but I don't know how.  I can only help myself.  I feel so helpless, because these drivers have been driving for years keeping our school kids safe from bullying by other kids.

Perhaps Texas AFT can do something on a statewide bases.

thank you for always looking out for the interests of the teachers who are always looking out for the interests of our kids in texas.

 

 

First, I commend you and all bus-drivers for working to make school bus rides safe. As an administrator, I have ridden the school bus and seen the Herculean task the driver has to maintain calm and safety inside the bus while watching the road. You know first-hand what many who have seen the movie "Bully" are just finding out about what can happen on a bus ride. Your topic of workplace bullying is very important. Recently when I presented about bullying and intolerance, I was asked the question "What about adults bullying each other or adults bullying students?" I even spoke to an administrator who said since her state has passed the new laws about bullying, she has actually dealt with cases of adults bullying children. This is a very complex issue. If you google workplace bullying, you will find statistics that say a 2007 Zogby Poll stated that 37% of employees have reported being bullied at work. When you go deeper into the topic you find websites with suggestions on how to handle it. Suggestions always warn you to carefully consider how to address workplace bullying. They point to recognizing that you might take the risk and lose, especially when the person doing the bullying is a supervisor. The websites speak of situations where nothing is done, or where co-workers isolate the person who is speaking up, and situations where people who are targets of bullying are forced to take worker's compensation or even are fired as a result of reporting it.  Also, the websites warn people to first prioritize their own mental and physical health over a paycheck. Currently, US law only covers harassment of members protected groups (gender, race, religion, etc.). According to the Healthy Workplace Bill website, 21 States since 2003 have introduced a Healthy Workplace Bill. To date no laws have been enacted. As of February, 2012, 18 States have current bills. Canada and many other countries are ahead of the US and have legislation to stop bullying of adults. Workplaces need clear policies and guidelines for employee reporting and employer action. Clearly, this is a serious issue for many people. With the nationwide attention spotlighting bullying of children, I believe that we will begin to take action on bullying of adults.
Sincerely,
Becki

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